So there have been times when I just feel like “why should I try?” Why am I putting in the effort if I can’t change it? And in my life, the past few years, it has always been me trying to change something or someone because I’m hurt or because I have hope that things will turn out differently. But the reality of it is that sometimes things don’t turn out the way that you want and you just have to let go. I’m going to share a personal story and I hope that it can resonate with one of you.
Personal Story:
I have family members who I’ve always wanted to be a part of my son’s life. When I was about 2 or 3, my biological father died, and my biological mother didn’t want me; therefore when I was about 4 I was adopted by this wonderful family who have loved me from day one. But in my mind, I have always wanted a different type of relationship for my son. I’ve always wanted him to have a close relationship with his whole family, grandparents included. Well once I met my husband, I’ve started to notice that some family members just didn’t like me and it hurt for a long time because I couldn’t understand. I’ve never experienced that type of hurt before and I’m still afraid to talk to them about it because if I do, then they will know how I feel, and possibly judge me even more. Anyway, because my son is so young, I wanted him to have a great relationship with his whole family and once I realized that the one side of the family didn’t really want much to do with him, I have decided to stop trying. I’ve started to ask myself “why am I putting in so much effort to get them to know my son and to spend time with him because they are family if they really don’t want anything to do with him?” I have now come to the realization and understanding that I’ve tried my best, and now it’s up to them. I have to let go of the fact that they don’t want to be apart of his life, and accept it even if it hurts me, and learn to just live my own life without feeling regret that I didn’t try hard enough.
My thoughts to you:
That’s what I want you all to know is that your life is your life, and you can only try for so long before it’s time to let it go, accept that you cannot change it and move on. I don’t want my son around family or anyone who doesn’t really care alot about him or who has a negative impact on his life. He doesn’t need that at such a young age and neither do you. You deserve to surround your kids, your family and yourself with positive people, and if you have people in your life that just don’t bring you joy, accept it, let them go and move on. If something has happened in your life, that you wish didn’t happen, accept the fact that you cannot change it, let it go, and look on the brighter side of things and figure out how you can make things better. It’s about your happiness and your life and realizing that you are not perfect, life will take you through hurdles, but you can jump over them and move on.
Question of the day:
Is there something or someone in your life, that you have had to Learn to let go, accept and move on from? Please share your answers, and share this post with anyone who you feel needs to hear this today. Have a wonderful day 🙂
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So true! I was divorced after a 30 year marriage and I constantly fight the feeling that I wasted those years of my life.
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It feels good to finally let it all go. It can be very difficult though. For me it’s something I struggle with all the time because I know what I want for my child, and I feel like I’m letting him down, which is why I wrote this because I want people to know that sometimes there is nothing you can do but let it go and move on and accept it. No matter how painful it is for you, it’s a process that needs to be done, in order for you to really live the life that you want and deserve. 🙂 Great comment.
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I have a family member who has written me out of his life over something silly. He knows the door is always open and I still keep in contact with his wife and daughters. He is the one missing out. I have learned to let go.
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It hurts like hell when it feels like family want nothing to do with us, but sometimes accepting it and sticking with the family that does care is the best thing to do. I’ve certainly felt the need to cling to my loved ones that reciprocate my love more than ever, and even though it still hurts, I’m finally letting those that don’t seem to care about me go.
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Great reminder… that we can only do so much and try so hard… sometimes we have to just let go… because we cannot change others and how they feel! Great article!
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Wow..thank you. I just read your article on: This Moment Is All That Matters and it was really good. Thanks for sharing that. It like coincided with mine which was amazing. I love reading your articles 🙂
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very true~~ i have a tendency to let things bother me that i have no control over. sometimes, it’s justmore trouble than it’s worth.
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I agree. When I worry, it causes more stress and more trouble and in the end I find that it’s just not worth it.
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Thank you for this post and I will be sharing. I had to let go of the person I loved because you can’t change people and they won’t change unless they want to.
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I’m glad that it helped you. And yes that is true…you can never change a person…they have to want to change and if you try to change, you are basically beating a dead horse…as my mother would say LOL. And thank you for sharing it, it means a lot 🙂
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