Hello my sweet sweet friends. How are all of you? I’m doing pretty good myself. How many of you feel like you don’t have time to spend with your significant other? How many of you keep hearing “I need you to spend time with me, why don’t you get off your phone and spend time with me, if you don’t start putting me as a priority, this relationship is over?” I know I have, and I’m telling you, it’s not a great thing to hear. Recently my relationship has been so much better, and I’m going to share with you some ways and tips on how you can make yours better as well.
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Get off your PHONE!!! This is a big one for so many people. Most people have a phone and most people are on their phone from the time they get up in the morning, to the time they go to bed…this was me…and when I realized how much it was hurting my family, I changed. Now when I have the time to spend with my husband or my family, I put my phone on airplane mode, I turn it off or I put it in another room…this way I’m not tempted to look at it, and no one can contact me in that amount of time. Your relationships are important, and you have to be willing to do something about it.
Go for a walk. You have no idea how much just going for a walk with your significant other or your family can really help you connect with them. The fresh air, the closeness, just helps you bond and spend the time together. If you do have to take your phone, just play music…that’s all you need…you don’t need to text people or to call people, just play music and enjoy your family.
Take time and talk. You may not think this changes things, but it really can. One night, I just talked to my spouse about everything. We talked about what we wanted to do with our finances, where we wanted to be in 5 years, how we could connect with each other, etc. It helped us grow closer together and figure out what we want for our family. We talked about our fears, and accomplishments, and everything…so talk things out.
So knowing all of that, I just want to help you realize that if you disconnect from the distractions and the technology, you can connect with the people who are important to you on a deeper level. You can really build that relationship that maybe you never had before. This all has to do with mindfulness and self reflection and awareness. You may not think that this has anything to do with mindfulness or even awareness…but when your relationship starts to change because you are taking the time to make it change, then you will see the awareness that I’m talking about.
Challenge for this week:
This week, anyone who comments, I want you to take one day and disconnect with whatever is taking up your time with your family, in order to connect with them on a deeper level. This could be…turning off your phone for an hour to spend time with your children, this could be turning off the television to spend quality time with your spouse or turning off your phone for your spouse, if that is what takes up your time…whatever it is..take one day and disconnect from it and connect with your family. I’m telling you…it makes a huge difference.