4 Tips To Create a Space You Love

Hello my sweet sweet friends. Sorry it’s been so long, but I live in the northeast and we just had that horrible snow storm, and we have so much snow, it’s ridiculous…anyway… Have you ever wanted to work but just didn’t feel inspired? You wish that you could just have that one place, that office, that room, that you could just let all of your creative juices flow, but you don’t know how to get that? Ok well that was me and I’m so excited to say that I have created that place for myself.  I’m going to share my 4 tips on how to create that space for yourself, because we all need a space where we can go and meditate, be alone,work, create, etc.

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4 Ways

  1. Find a space/room-So you want to find that space or room that you can make your own.  I took our 3rd bedroom that we weren’t using.

  2. Brainstorm the look-So after you find the room, you want to brainstorm what you want your room to look like, feel, etc.  I wanted my space/office to feel peaceful and calming.  I wanted to be able to meditate, do yoga, be inspired, but also have a sitting area, but in that, I wanted my desk so I can do all of my work.

  3. Lay it all out and decorate-This step you want to lay out your space/room and decorate. Declutter if need be, start putting things where you want them to go.  So for me, I got a light blue shower curtain with palm trees on it to remind me of the beach and used it as the focal point for my desk, then I put my desk up against it, I then took an ottoman and put it up against the wall underneath my window, and put a white pillow and a blue blanket on it.  I then found this little stand, that I put next to the ottoman and put a silver plate on it, decorated that with flowers, my pens and a beachy candle.

    In between my stand and my ottoman, I have this little basket that has my bible, devotional, notebook and a pen.  Beside my stand, I have my rocking chair, and on the floor in the middle of my ottoman, my stand and chair,  I have this beachy type rug…that way I have a sitting area. I then have a brown stand across from my rocking chair for my pictures and extra things, and then I have my desk.  I also have white lights, flowers and candles everywhere, and an essential oil diffuser.  And then near the door, I have my yoga mat so that I can do yoga whenever I want. 

  4. Appreciate -Now you can admire and appreciate the work you took to make your room, space, or office yours and enjoy it. You now have an inspirational space that you can let your creative juices flow into.  I love my space, it smells amazing, it’s peaceful, it’s calming, and I can just relax and do work if need be.

So there are my tips on creating a space you love. Be aware of the space you want in your life because a messy space equals a messy mind.  If you are feeling like you are confused a lot, or just irritated, or feel claustrophobic, take a look at your space and see if it’s messy and needs a little makeover.

 

Question for the week:

 let me know in the comments if you have a space for yourself.

Disconnect to Connect

Hello my sweet sweet friends.  How are all of you?  I’m doing pretty good myself. How many of you feel like you don’t have time to spend with your significant other?  How many of you keep hearing “I need you to spend time with me, why don’t you get off  your phone and spend time with me, if you don’t start putting me as a priority, this relationship is over?”  I know I have, and I’m telling you, it’s not a great thing to hear. Recently my relationship has been so much better, and I’m going to share with you some ways and tips on how you can make yours better as well.

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  1. Get off your PHONE!!!  This is a big one for so many people.  Most people have a phone and most people are on their phone from the time they get up in the morning, to the time they go to bed…this was me…and when I realized how much it was hurting my family, I changed.  Now when I have the time to spend with my husband or my family, I put my phone on airplane mode, I turn it off or I put it in another room…this way I’m not tempted to look at it, and no one can contact me in that amount of time.  Your relationships are important, and  you have to be willing to do something about it.

  2. Go for a walk.  You have no idea how much just going for a walk with your significant other or your family can really help you connect with them.  The fresh air, the closeness, just helps you bond and spend the time together.  If you do have to take your phone, just play music…that’s all you need…you don’t need to text people or to call people, just play music and enjoy your family.

  3. Take time and talk.  You may not think this changes things, but it really can.  One night, I just talked to my spouse about everything.  We talked about what we wanted to do with our finances, where we wanted to be in 5 years, how we could connect with each other, etc.  It helped us grow closer together and figure out what we want for our family.  We talked about our fears, and accomplishments, and everything…so talk things out.

So knowing all of that, I just want to help you realize that if you disconnect from the distractions and the technology, you can connect with the people who are important to you on a deeper level.  You can really build that relationship that maybe you never had before. This all has to do with mindfulness and self reflection and awareness.  You may not think that this has anything to do with mindfulness or even awareness…but when your relationship starts to change because you are taking the time to make it change, then you will see the awareness that I’m talking about.

Challenge for this week:

This week, anyone who comments, I want you to take one day and disconnect with whatever is taking up your time with your family, in order to connect with them on a deeper level.  This could be…turning off  your phone for an hour to spend time with your children, this could be turning off the television to spend quality time with your spouse or turning off your phone for your spouse, if that is what takes up your time…whatever it is..take one day and disconnect from it and connect with your family.  I’m telling you…it makes a huge difference.

Importance of worship

 

Hello my sweet sweet friends.  I’m going to talk about something that is important to me as a Christian and I feel that others could relate to.

disclaimer…if this is not your cup of tea…it’s ok…feel free to not read or go and read my many other non christian posts…however…if you choose to comment, please no disrespectful comments.  I’m saying this because this is not a place for that, if you have a different belief than me or anyone else…keep it to yourself…or comment in a way that is respectful to everyone.  Thank you and I hope you enjoy.

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Worship is important. I just want to share what God taught me this morning in my quiet time with him and maybe this can be a comfort to someone out there. How many times do we go through life and forget about God? (Ref. Revelations 2:4) The one who created us, the one who first loved us? God should be the first person on our minds everyday…but is he? I’m guilty of this too. We go through life and just forget him…we download the next best app or we download the Bible on our phones instead of going into his word directly..we ask a computer call Siri for everything but we don’t ask God… why? I want to change that in my life…do you? Are you forgetting God in your life? You know…We need to long for him…we need to be humbled and give him our full attention each day. Even if it’s for 5 minutes…dive into his word, meditate on what he’s done for you, (ref. psalm 143:5), pray if you are hurting, pray for those who are hurting….worship him, he will meet you where you are. 🙏🏾and as we do this, as we fill our minds and lives with his presence…let people see his love through us. We are created to worship, we are his sheep and he is our shepherd…as we worship him, as we hear his voice…as we seek him…we follow…we allow him to direct our lives and to bring us peace.

 

I hope this meant something to someone.   I do have a post coming about toxic people and learning from them…but I need to do something before I can do that…if you want to read about something, let me know.

My top 3 ways to make Quiet time for your soul-Part 3 of the Mind, body and Soul series

Hello my sweet sweet friends. Hello anyone who is new reading my blog, hello all who love reading my blog and are returning for another inspiring post. How has everyone’s week been so far?  Mine hasn’t been so bad.  I have a sick little boy, and we still have our winter weather, but other than that, things are going really well. So we have talked about the mind and the body, and today we are going to talk about the last part of this series…the soul.

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I’m going to be real with you all, this part was really hard for me.  I just was not sure what I wanted to say about your soul…so it took me until today to write this last part of the series.  But I’m going to share my top 3 ways to make quiet time for your soul. Hopefully  as you all read this, you can look at  your life and maybe deciding whether you need to make time to quiet your soul.

1) Journal or bible journaling-I have this journaling bible.  I got it off amazon about a few months ago. At  first it was just something that I liked because it was new and I thought it was cool but then it started changing me. It was like this light turned on in my soul and I just started craving it. I wanted to take my colored pencils, my highlighters, my stickers, all of my craft supplies and create a picture of the scriptures I read.

As I started to do this, I noticed how much I loved it and needed it in my life. I would sit down after my son went to school or when he went to bed, put on some music, and light a candle and I would spend quite time not only with God but also with my soul. Going back to my childhood years and being creative while also emerging myself in the word.

Now maybe you feel this isn’t for you and that’s ok. The point of this story is that you  need to fill your soul with what makes you happy. Journaling works the same way as does studying the Bible. 

2) Meditate-I have talked about mediation before on my blog but again this is a great way to have quiet time with your soul. It’s a way to remove the distractions from your mind for a few minutes and focus on the now.

3) Read– reading is great for the soul. It just takes your mind and soul to a different place and you don’t have to think about any problems or concerns you have. You can read, go into another world and educate your soul. 

Now I can’t tell you what will make your soul happy, that is something you need to find and discover on your own. You will know what that something is, because you will crave it and you will feel happy when you do it.

I hope this made sense and that this series made you think. I also hope that you find what makes your soul leap, shine,sparkle….happy.

 

So those are my top 3 ways to make quiet time for your soul. In the comments below, what are ways that you make quiet time for  your soul?

Keep your soul, mind and body healthy series Part 2: Your Mind…

Hello my sweet friends. Last week we talked about your body and how it’s important to keep it healthy.  Our bodies are what we live in, and unless you are a cat, you only have one life which means you only have one body.  We talked about different ways you can keep your body healthy.  This week we are going to talk about our minds.  As you all know, you kind of need your minds/brains…right?  I mean you are supposed to use your mind or your brain your entire life; from the time you get school age, to well the time you really don’t need to use it any more.  Our minds are a crucial part of our bodies, so it only makes sense to make sure that it is healthy, so that you can do all that you need to do. Today we are going to talk about 3 main ways that you can keep your mind healthy.  Keep in mind, these are my thoughts, if you have any other thoughts on this; please share in the comments below.

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                   3 tips to keep your mind healthy

  • Think positive.  Positivity can really change the way you look at life.  I know people don’t believe this, but it is true.  When I am having a bad day, if I look at something with a positive outlook, it helps me see things clearer and it makes me feel better.  It gives me hope in a way…and in some instances; I think that if you have hope, it can really help you stay sain.  It is like if you are in the hospital for cancer, if someone tells you that it will be ok or that you are going to live to see your children get married or your children have children, it gives you that bit of hope that maybe you needed.  Its helping you think positive even though you are going through a horrible and painful time in your life.

  • Get rid of the negatives’ around you. This goes with the first tip, you need to get rid of the negative people or things that are making you sad, however you also should embrace the negative people around you. (I will write another post about this) Having negative people or things around you can bring your mood down, and if you are in pain or in a hospital with an illness or you are recovering from something, you don’t need people telling you that it will never get better or this is your life so get used to it or whatever.  You want people to bring you up and make you feel like you can get through anything.  Another way to do this is to go through your social media and delete the negative people or send them a message about how you are feeling that way they know.   

  • Read a positive book and soak it in. Reading can really help your mind.  It can one: make you smarter, but also make your mind relax and be at peace.  Being sucked into a good book, whether fiction or nonfiction is just a great thing to be in.  Grab a snack and a drink, set the mood and read.  People don’t need to know why you are doing it or why you’re reading the book you chose, you just need to realize that it’s ok.

Your mind is so important and when you realize how important, then you can start to see what you need to do to keep it healthy.

Challenge for this week:

Pick an activity, that can be good for your mind. Maybe it’s journaling, reading, meditating, doing yoga, sending a positive message to 1 person each day next week,etc…whatever you choose…do it for that whole week. See if your mind is relaxed, renewed…when the week is over…reflect…ask your friends and family if they saw a difference in you…have you seen a difference in yourself?  Is your mind…less cluttered and more clear?

Remember: “Where a mind goes, a man follows” Proverbs 23:7

Keep your soul, mind and body healthy series

Hello my sweet sweet friends. So this is a new series that I’m going to start.  It will take about 3 posts to make sure that this is a good series.  As you know, you mind, body and soul are very important to you in different ways.  In this 3 part series, we will talk about all of these individually and go in depth why they are important and how they go hand in hand.  Today we are going to start with the body.  So lets get started shall we….

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Body

Our bodies are very important.  It’s what we live in…and because of the importance, our bodies should be treated right.  Now I’m not going to go into bible scriptures about how we should keep our bodies pure because well, I’m not, but I will give you 3 tips of things you can do to help keep your bodies healthy.

 

  • Drink water. I know that you hear this all the time but drink water.  It’s really important because most of our body is made up of water. Different ways you can drink water…you can put fruit in it, you can put lemons in it, you can drink it plain…however you like it, make sure that you drink water.

  • Exercise/Stay active. This is also what you hear all the time but stay active.  The more active you are, the longer you will live, and the healthier your body will be.  We should be taking care of our bodies so that we can live longer.  Think about it, we only have this one body, so why wouldn’t you want to take care of it?

  • Pamper your body. This is so important too.   A lot of times, we keep going, and we never stop to just take care of ourselves. One way to do this is by doing a manicure or pedicure.  Another way of pampering yourself is by taking a bath, or watching a movie and relaxing.

    These ideas are just some ways on how you can take care of your body. Just take one day out of the week to reflect and take care  of  your body, not only just by drinking water and exercising but also by treating it like you could die tomorrow and wont’ get time to actually have that nice and relaxing feeling.

 

Challenge for this week: Think of a way that you love to take care of your body, whether that be by giving yourself a pedicure or manicure, taking a nice hot bath, exercising, watching a movie and giving your body a break from your busy week,give yourself a facial, have your boyfriend or husband give you a massage, etc…whatever it might be…do one thing to take care of your body this week. Once you have chosen what  you are going to do…hold  yourself accountable by telling a friend, a coworker, a family member…and make sure you do it. Remember…your body is important and you only have one, so treat  it right.

7 ways to relax

Hello my sweet sweet friends.  This blog post was supposed to go up last week, but my son was really sick and then my husband and I got really sick, so today is the first day that I actually feel like I can write and post a blog post. So I’m sitting here on a Friday afternoon.  I have my white Christmas lights on in my office, a wax warmer with an amazing smelling wax and some music.  Today we are going to talk about ways to relax, or ways to your Zen.  You know those days when you just need to sit back and relax, well here are 7 ideas or ways that you can do that…so if you want to read more…just look below….

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  • Drink tea. I love drinking tea.  There’s something so soothing about having hot tea, when you just need to relax.  The process that you have to go through to make it…the picking out your favorite mug, picking out the tea you want to drink, putting water in it and just finding a cozy spot to sit and drinking it.  This is what I love to do when I’m about to read a book or just relax with a great movie.

  • Utilize aroma therapy. These can be in a form of essential oils, wax warmer, candles or diffuser.  Whatever you want to use to make your house or space smell amazing and feel cozy.  Setting the mood can really help anyone relax and feel right at home.

  • Practice mindfulness. Now I talked about this before on my blog, but it’s important to practice mindfulness.  Mindfulness as I have mentioned before is being in the moment.  So go for a walk, without your electronics, without your phone and just take in the air.  Take in the nature and just walk.  Think about things, but be in the moment, because the moments that you are in, are the moments you will remember and cannot get back. Another way I love to practice mindfulness is by coloring.  I just bought 3 adult coloring books and I can’t wait to use them.  You don’t have to be a kid to do kid things, what’s important is being in the present moment and remembering why you are here on earth.

  • Explore music. I love music…and exploring new music, new bands, new artists…is amazing.

  • Practice deep breathing. So this can be hard for a lot of people, and I admit that I’m still learning to do this, but practicing deep breathing can be very beneficial and can calm you down.  So something to try is to just take 1 minute and just do some deep breaths.  And once you are comfortable with that, you can take that up to 2, 3, 4, or 5 minutes.  Another way to do this is to meditate or do yoga.

  • Ok for all those girls out there…do a manicure or a pedicure. I love these.  I get all my things together, grab a good chick movie and just sit and do my nails.  It’s so soothing and just feels great in the end.

  • Positive thinking and Affirmation. This is something that I think people should do on a daily basis.  You should always think positive and have an affirmation or a mantra that you say.  My mantra is “she believed she could so she did,” and also “I will walk by faith, even when I cannot see.”  I’ve talked a lot about these as well, but I live by these, and I love them.  So I encourage you all to find a quote, an affirmation, a positive thinking saying that you either came up with on your own or found and remember it.  It can really help your life.

Well, I hope that you all had an amazing week last week, and that this week is great for you as well.  And something I wanted to say…Obviously with all the news and everything…be aware of what is going on, and maybe take this time to reflect on things that are happening in this world. So til next time.

 

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I’m sorry for the lack of posts and for not responding to comments.  I took a break so that I could get better and my family could get better and I could get sleep.  I work outside of the home so I needed to get well rested and it’s been really hard.  But while I wasn’t blogging, I was still writing up posts, and planning what I wanted to say and talk about on this blog.  Please leave any topics you feel you want to read about.  This has been a great break for reflecting and just getting through some personal, spiritual demons, I guess you could say.

Chase after Progress…Not just Success

Hello my sweet sweet friends. I have so much to post about, and so much on my heart, but for the sake of this blog post, we are going to talk about progress and success.  How many of you strive on success?  How many of you work all the time, and always hear, “you work too much.”?  How many of you love money?  Well in order to have money, you need to be successful right?  No…that’s not necessarily true.  How many of you are truly happy with the success you have made? What would happen if you chased after progress instead of success?  Would you still be as happy?  Would you know the difference?  These are questions that I want you to think about as you read this post because you can have all the success in the world, but if you don’t see any progress…was it worth it?  If you  are not even happy…was it all worth it?

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Self development is about seeing the progress that you have made… right?  What if your self development is learning to save money so that you are not overwhelmed all the time?  What if your self development is getting a good job, climbing the ladder until you are at the top?  No matter what your self development process is, no matter what you want to accomplish, you should see progress.  Maybe you want to lose weight, maybe to you that will be a success…well in order to do that, you have to do all that is required and you need to keep track of your progress because you want to see progress.  You can be as successful as you want, but if you don’t see progress in it, what was the point?  My point to all these questions is that you want to chase after progress and not just success.  I say this because progress can be measured, can be seen, improved…but success…money, can not really be improved.  Yea you could have all the money in world, but is your mind on the right track….have you seen any improvement in anything?  Maybe your self development is improving your marriage, but you are so caught up in your job and earning money to get that bonus, that you neglect your marriage…was all the money worth it in the end?  Is your marriage any better?

I know this seems all over the place but if you can try and follow along, understand, that progress over success is… in my opinion… is so much better.  It truly can make you happy…unlike success…can still leave you empty.  You don’t want to feel empty in the end, you want to feel like you have accomplished something and you want to really feel like your life is all that you have dreamed of. Let’s chase progress, not just success.

Question of the day:

If you understand this post…great…but if you did understand it…let me know your thoughts on whether you think that chasing progress is just as important as chasing success, not as important, or you feel like it should be a balance?  Everything I write is my opinion, feel free to share your own thoughts on what I talked about.  I read all the comments and I reply to everyone.  Til next time 🙂

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If you feel you need to speak to me but not comment…email me at: marvinam16@yahoo.com

Self care 101

Hello my sweet friends and welcome to a new year.  I can’t believe that we are in the year of 2017…that’s crazy right?  Well since we are in a new year, we are to talk about self care.  Self care is what I feel everyone needs in their life. You have to take care of yourself.  How can you take care of others, or your children or your family, if you, yourself are not physically, emotionally, spiritually or mentally healthy?  How many of you feel that life seems to pass you by, and you just never have time in the day to do what you want?  How many of us get upset because we wanted to do this or that, but then by the end of the day, the one thing we wanted to do, we never got done?  So today we are going to talk about what self care is, and what it might look like for those introverts like me and all of those who are extroverts.

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Self care is basically a set of practices that you incorporate into your life to feel nourished.   It’s putting aside time to recharge in a way that is meaningful to you.  This can be in a way of spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally.   This can mean different things to different people, but whatever works for you, is what works for you.  What might work for some people may not work for other people and that is ok.  So what does this like look for an introvert like myself?

So for introverts…self care might look a little like this:

    -meditation

    -yoga

    -devotional or some kind

    -journaling

    -reading

  etc…anything where they can be alone, and can kind of recharge without a large crowd around.

For extroverts…this might look like:

     -going to a club

     -hanging out with a group of friends

      -having a party

etc…anything that includes lots of people, being social, things like that.

All of these are ok…it’s whatever works for you.  And a helpful thing to do is figure out whether you are an introvert or an extrovert.

A rule of thumb to remember…When figuring out a self care plan..come up with 5 things…these things need to be things that can help you in that moment, or few hours…something or somethings to help calm you down and just relax your mind.

So here are mine:

   -breathe

   -tea

   -journal/write

   -read

   -talk

Those are 5 things that I can do in a pinch if I really am stressed but I’m not home to actually sit and watch tv LOL.

So there you have it…everyone needs to take care of themselves…and invest time into taking care of themselves.

 

Question of the day:

What are your 5 things that you can do in a pinch if you are stressed, to take care of yourself?  Leave your answers in the comments below.

 And if you would like a helpful start, leave your email in your comment, and I will email you a free gift to help your self care start off on the right track.  Have a fabulous day 🙂

6 main things that 2016 has taught me

Hello my sweet sweet friends.  2016 was a year full of sadness but also happiness.  But one of the most important things for me was that it was about finding myself.  Learning who I am has really changed the way I think about different things.  Today I’m going to share 6 main things that 2016 taught me.  If you wish to know…..

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  1. Stand up for yourself.

  2. Happiness starts with you, not with someone else

  3. Finding yourself is the best journey ever!

  4. There may be bad days, but there is something positive in everyday

  5. Putting your all in something you are passionate about…will pay off in the end

  6. Have faith in God and let him lead your life, emotions, everything

  1. This year has taught me to stand up for myself.  Sometimes I can just let things go and be shy and not say what I’m really feeling, and that’s not good.  So this year has taught me that I need to stand up for myself and not let people walk all over me.  It’s a great feeling when you don’t let people walk all over you and you take pride in knowing who you are.

  2. This year I learned that happiness starts with me…not with someone else.  If I want to be happy, I have to do things that make me happy.  Fake it til I make it.  Learn what makes me happy and do it, and not care if others don’t like it.  When I do things that make me happy, then I feel good about myself and things just turn out ok.

  3. Finding myself was and still is an amazing journey.  I took this whole year to find myself.  Find out what makes me happy, what makes me sad, what I like, etc…and it and still is amazing.  I’ve learned more about myself than I have my whole life, and I can’t wait to continue this journey in 2017.  I’ve learned that other people’s opinions don’t matter.  As long as you are happy, then that is what matters.  The hard times I went through, the good times, were worth it and have made me a better person inside and out.

  4. There may be bad times, but there is something positive in everyday.  Things are going to happen, trials will come your way, but if you can say or write down one positive thing that happened that day, then you will see that there is a brighter side to the madness of your life. I’ve learned to just be grateful for one thing each day and by doing that, I’ve started to see that the sun will always through the clouds.

  5. Putting your all in something will pay off in the end.  This year I put my all in my blog and I love where it’s gone and where it is.  I love sharing self care, self reflection posts and encouraging content because I feel that it can really help someone.  I’m so grateful for the amazing comments I have been receiving and I do want to thank you all for making my blog amazing.  You all are apart of it. Everyone who comments, who reads, who shares, who follows or whatever, is apart of this blog and I couldn’t thank you all enough.  I love reading and replying to your comments and I can’t wait to see the  growth in 2017.

  6. Last I learned to continue to have faith in God and let him lead every part of my life.  God is truly amazing, and by having faith, you can really see things happen in your life. My life verse is “I will walk by faith, even when I can not see.” 2 Corinthians 5:7

So that is what 2016 taught me and I can’t wait to see what 2017 has in store.

 

Question of the week:

What is one thing 2016 taught you? Share in the comments below, and if you liked this, comment, share and follow to know when I post.  Have a great week and New Years 🙂

P.S. For the new year, if you comment, like or follow, I will send you a free PDF challenge, that I created for 2017 for January. Just leave a comment with your email address if you would like to receive a free gift for the new year.  It’s a self care challenge to get you started with the new year.  🙂