Hello my sweet sweet friends. How are all of you this week? I love asking that question because I really want to know how all of you are doing this week. My week so far has been pretty busy with working nights…(I’m basically a certified nursing assistant, but I work in a house with 4-5 clients)…so I’m pretty busy especially since I’m a mom and a wife and we have a dog. I love my job, I love my clients, but because I do all of this, there are days were I just need to center my mind.
If you read or follow my blog, you know that I have a few posts about meditation, but there are some people who don’t like the whole meditation process…you know, sitting still and being quiet for like 5-10 minutes or longer if you prefer. So I have come up with 5 alternatives that I like to do instead of the meditation process. If you are interested in finding out what they are, then continue reading.
1.Lighting a candle or a fire and just watch the flames.
Ok I have no idea why this is so soothing but it really is. Have you ever just sat and watched a flame? It makes the vibe in the room so cool. Another example is camp fires. Ok so how many of you love camp fires or bonfires? ME!!!! I love it mostly because they are warm, but also because of the noise of the fire crackling and watching the flame…ok I’m weird but I don’t care, it’s so soothing and awesome. Let me know if any of you like bonfires as much as I do.
2.Spending time with your pets.
Pets love to spend time with their owners or families and what better day to spend an hour or even less than to play with your pet(s) and show them some love.
3.Have flowers(fake or real) or pick flowers.
I have flowers all over my apartment. Mine are fake because real flowers die too fast for me and I love to keep my flowers for different seasons and holidays. I’ve been really into white lately, so I made these flower arrangements and put them all over my apartment. They make me happy and when I see them, my mind just goes to peace. So if you love flowers, and meditation is not your think, go pick some up and put them around your place to boost your mood and to bring your mind to peace.
I’m sure I’ve mentioned this on my blog before, but I love reading. The book in the picture is one that I’m currently reading along with just a regular book. This book is called Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley. It’s a good book so far. Not sure if I have done a review yet on it, if I have I will link it below, if not, let me know in the comments if any of you would love to hear the review on it and I will do it. Anyway, reading is a great alternative to meditation because you can get into a new world and just take your mind somewhere else.
5.Have a great breakfast.
This is one that I love. If you don’t like to meditate, but you need to just get your mood to a calmer place, start your day off with a good breakfast. Get up an hour or two earlier and make that breakfast that will make you feel great. Even if your day doesn’t go great, atleast you know you had a great breakfast.
So those are my 5 alternatives to meditation. If you want to see more of my thoughts on meditation, put meditation in the search bar and it will bring up all my posts on it.
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Question of the week:
In the comments below, share if you have any alternatives to mediation. For those who don’t like the stereotypical type of meditation, what do you do to quiet the mind? 🙂
Hello my sweet sweet friends. As some of you may know…I’ve been going through a self reflection self awareness journey these past 2 years. I will briefly describe why for those who don’t know. A few years ago, I was having a rough time. I lost one of my best friends ( no he didn’t die) our friendship of 8 years ended, I was having some relationship issues and to add to it, my anxiety was really bad. I knew I needed to do something but I didn’t know what would make me happy, so I finally decided I needed to just reflect on my life and make that change.
This has helped me so much and I have to say that as of today July 8, 2017, I’m pretty happy with who I have become…I have some amazing friends, my relationship is pretty good and things are pretty good even through the rough times. I feel that self improvement has to start with self reflection and here’s 5 reasons why.
It makes or requires you to dig deep into your feelings.
This may be hard for people and I know it was hard for me for awhile. But after I really dug down deep and thought about why I was so unhappy, I could see that there were things in my life that just needed to be different. I needed myself to be good, before I could have everyone else in my life be ok.
Admit you are not perfect.
You are not perfect. And that is something you need to admit to yourself. When I was having that rough time, I was trying to be perfect in all of my relationships and it ended up being a disaster, so admit. Admitting things about yourself is NOT A WEAKNESS. I feel that it’s a strength because you are brave enough to admit that there are things that are not great traits or qualities of yourself and you want to improve that.
You can not do everything.
There are only 24 hours in a day. Ok…everyone in the world only has 24 hours in a day which means that you can not do everything. Something I had to admit that in order to be happy, I had to realize that I’m not superwoman all of the time. I can only do what I can do in that day and I need to be happy with that. If my friend asks me to text her, but I have a busy day, and I don’t get to text her, it’s ok (if she’s a good friend) because the next day you can do that. So don’t beat yourself up over things you don’t get to. Appreciate what you do get to and be happy. You will get to it the next day I promise.
You do not need to fix every problem.
Wow…this is something I had such a hard time doing. I got my BA in Psychology and I’m always trying to fix problems (even to this day) but what self reflection has taught me is that it’s alright to just listen to someone and not try to fix their issues. Sometimes your friends just want a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen, they don’t want you to fix it or want to know your ideas on how to fix their problem.
Understand, that in order to make a change…it starts with YOU.
If you want a change, then you need to actually make the changes. Figure out what you want to change and figure out the steps to change it. So for me, I had to admit, acknowledge and accept that the friendship was over, and that the 8 years we were friends was great but now it’s time for me to make new friends and embrace that change. Number 2: I had to fix my relationship… which again started with me and number three, I needed to find ways to deal or calm my anxiety.
So there you have the 5 reasons. I hope this made you think about yourself a little bit more especially if there is something you need to change in yourself or in your life.
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In the comments below, let me know your thoughts on this subject. Do you feel that it is necessary to reflect on yourself or your life in order to see improvement? What area of your life would you want to see improvement in? Have you ever needed to take a step back in order to realize that an area of yourself or your life needed to be changed?
Hello my sweet sweet friends. How has your week gone? Mine has gone pretty well. There’s a quote I would like to share with you because I feel it has a lot to do with self development.
This quote just says so much. Your mind needs to be right if you want a real change. If you are in a situation that you don’t really like…then you are in the power to change that. If you are unhappy with something, then you can either stay in that place and be unhappy or you can change your mindset towards the way you look at it.
For example: Maybe you are in a job you really hate, but you have to pay your bills…well you can either get another job, or you can tell yourself that even though you don’t really like the job, you are going to just do your job, come home and enjoy the time with your family and be happy. Another example could be you are starting your own business and after a week or so you are not seeing any profit or after a a few months, or a year, you are not seeing any profit…you can either get upset and say “I’m going to quit and that’s that….I’m not making any money”…or you can say “I’m going to do more research, I’m going to keep this business going, I’m going to get advice and help and put in the work…and I’m not going to give up.” It’s all about your mindset.
My blog has been doing pretty good. I have 36 followers and I’ve been doing this for quite some time. Do I get discouraged sometimes because I feel like I should have more followers but I don’t, Yes, but I keep going, because I know that this blog is helping someone out there. I love my blog and I love helping and eventually I will do a paid version and all of that, because, eventually I do want to expand this blog and really get super serious but for now….this is perfect. My mindset is “I’m not giving up because it’s hard…I’m pushing forward because it’s important to me and I love it. It’s a passion of mine that could turn into something serious and giving up is not an OPTION! I want this to help someone and I don’t care what I have to do, how much work I have to put in…to make this amazing.
It’s all about your mindset. It’s all about how you look at the situation. Your mind will either make you or break you. The way you see things can change how you feel, can change your life and the way you live your life. So think about the situation you are in and check your mind…are you in your right mind? If not, it might be time for a mental evaluation. It may be time to think to yourself and say “Am I working at my best, is the situation I’m in helping me or do I need to make a change?” “Do I need to work smarter or even harder…or am I just going to give up because I’m not seeing the result (s) I want?” You have to take responsibility for the situation you are in. You have to take responsibility for your business…no one is going to give it to you…no one else is going to care more than you. If you don’t care…and you give up….then what does that say?
Do I need to give my mind… an attitude adjustment?
Has anyone ever been in a situation where you just needed to give your mind an attitude adjustment? If yes…how did it turn out? Share in the comments below.
Hello my sweet sweet friends. I feel like our world has just taken life so seriously. We don’t laugh a lot, tell jokes, have fun. So let’s go back to our child hood years. Here are 5 ways that I thought of when I think of childhood years.
1) Get a coloring book and color. We all remember those times when we would just color, so why not just go for it. Color your heart out. Color with your children, get those markers, paintbrushes, coloring books and just go at…who is judging you…Not me.
2) Put on some music and dance. We all deserve to just dance and what better way to loosen up then to put on your favorite music and have a dance party.
3) Stop caring so much about the little things. This is something I have to work on. Let the little things go and just relax. Take silly pictures and goof off because that is so much fun.
4) Go play outside…have a picnic, get creative.
5) HAVE FUN WITH YOUR CHILDREN, FRIENDS AND FAMILY…GO BACK TO YOUR CHILDHOOD TIMES AND DO THINGS YOU WOULD HAVE DONE BACK THEN!
Question of the day
What is 1 thing that you did when you were a child that you want to do with your children, friends or family? Comment down below.
Hello my sweet sweet friends. As Pride month comes to a close soon, I wanted to do another post about this month. So I was on pinterest last night, and I saw a few quotes that I really felt could be amazing to talk about. The quotes are really simple, but they can say so much. You know that saying…a picture speaks 1000 words…ok well these do..and if you agree…let me know in the comments below. So here they are:
Love should not be determined by gender, it should not be determined by race, it should not be determined by height, weight or even your sexual orientation. Love should be determined by whats in the heart. What’s in the heart matters way more than anything else. (Written by me: Marvina)
We are all human. Who we love or what we look like should not matter. How can you judge someone for all of these characteristics when you are not the one that created humans? How can you tell someone who they should love, or what weight they should be or what color they should be, when you are not the one that created them? What gives you the right to be this judgmental? (Written by me: Marvina)
We are all humans, and with humanity comes diversity. Diversity is what makes our nation a nation. So I wanted to share this because it was so inspirational even though the pictures are so simple.
We all have those times when we let other’s dictate our lives for us. We all have those times when we go with what everyone else wants to do because it is what will make them happy…but what about what will make us happy. Here are 7 Ways that have helped me strive to stay happy and not give people the control over my life.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others! There are times when I think “Ok I wish I looked like her or I love her dress, wish I had that.” But I shouldn’t do that because maybe what they have, they don’t really like, or maybe it might look horrible on me…so don’t compare yourself to others. You are great the way you are.
Have Your Own Style. Create a style that you love and go with it. Whether that’s wearing hippy clothes, or dresses all of the time, or like me; a pair of jeans and a t-shirt with sneakers…whatever your style is….create one and go with it. If people hate it, who cares, it makes you happy and it’s who you are.
Find A Bright Side to Every Situation. Something that I love doing, is to try and find the bright side of things. Even if I am scared out of my mind, I try to think of a bright side to it. For example, lets say you get into a car accident…everyone is ok…but the car is totaled and you have a huge bill or something….ok well the bright side is that everyone is alright. Yes you may have to pay for repairs for the car or get a new car, but you can’t replace people, so there’s a bright side to something.
Have a Gratitude Journal. Find something in each day or week to be grateful for. I’ve talked about this on my blog before, which I will leave a link for the post below. There is always a rainbow after the rain…basically meaning that there is always something to be grateful for, even if your day has gone so wrong, you have had such a bad day…find the rainbow…
Meditate, Pray, or have Quiet Time. Ok so at my house, I have what I call “quiet time” for my toddler. It’s a way for him to relax, take a nap or play quietly for an hour or so. By doing this, I can have my time…same goes with adults. You have to have those times where you have time to quiet your mind. I love meditation, but I also love yoga and reading. Which brings me to my next suggestion.
Read. Reading is something I love and I hope that you grow to love it too. Reading can be so enjoyable, educational and also peaceful. I’ve recently read a really good book and I’m on another really good book, that I will eventually share…but the one I’m talking about in this one is “Note to Self.” I did a review on this book because it was so inspiring and just beautifully written, which I will leave the link to the post below if any of you want to check it out. However, reading can really make you happy because you go to another place other than the place where you are at…plus it can help quiet your mind.
Exercise. Last but not least, exercise. This is something that everyone talks about but that’s because it’s true. Exercise, releases endorphins which makes you happy. You are getting all that stress out so that you can have peace in your mind and focus and be happier. I’m not a doctor but you get the point.
Whatever you do…Do things that make you happy. The more you do what makes you happy, the less time you will be spending thinking of things that make you stressed out or unhappy. The more you do things that make you happy, the more you will enjoy your life and the people around you.
Hello my sweet sweet friends. Have you ever felt like you just didn’t fit in? Have you ever felt like the odd ball out but didn’t know why? Have you ever thought about why you feel different? These are some questions that I want to ask you because being different is a common thing these days. Everyone is their own person, everyone has their own opinions and things that make them who they are…and you shouldn’t hide them; even if you don’t fit in with the “it” crowd. As some of you may known, this month is PRIDE month and I think that being different has a lot to do with that. Today I’m going to share 5 reasons on how you can be a master at being different. Lets get started shall we?……
Embrace your UNIQUENESS.Being different means that you have your own unique style about you. You may have something that makes you stand out among-st the crowd. For me…I have big eyes…I guess you can say…but I feel they are the best part of me, because I love my eyes.
Don’t pretend to be someone else!You may want to be someone else because they are popular, or good looking or good at something. You may even change the way you dress, the foods you eat, etc…because you want to be this person; but what will happen when you lose yourself? What will happen when your friends start noticing you are acting different? What happens if you lose all your friends in the process of trying to be someone you are not? Will you be happy? Probably not, so don’t try to be someone else because who you are is who God made you to be. If people don’t accept you for who you are, then they are not worth keeping in your life.
Have an OPENED MIND.When you have an opened mind, more people are willing to be friends with you.
Learn courage.Everyone wants to be strong. You want to feel like you can conquer the world. Well you can because being different teaches you that you have to have courage. You have to be brave enough to not want to fit in but to stand out.
Remember, you bring a little something-something to the world.By being different, you bring a bit of sparkle and life to the world. This world would be boring if everyone was the same. Everyone would be predictable and then what would be the point of having all the different races, sexes, etc?
IT’S OK TO BE DIFFERENT. EMBRACE IT, BE BRAVE, BE WHO GOD MADE YOU TO BE AND BRING THAT SOMETHING-SOMETHING THAT MAKES PEOPLE GO…I WANT TO BE DIFFERENT TOO!!!