4 Reasons why Self-Care is a Practice

Hello my sweet sweet friends. In the past year, into this year, the trend it self care and people wanting to just get their mind, body and souls in check…but what people forget to tell you is that self care is a practice, just like anything else.   Today we will be discussing self care and why I feel it’s a practice first, before anything else. Let’s get started.

 

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 Untitled design (6)Start small.   Self care is a practice, and when you practice anything, you want to start small right.  If you want to be a runner, you are not going to just jump right and in and do a marathon…unless you are that ambitious lol…but no, you are going to start small, maybe run around you town, or run a mile or something, something to just get you into it and not overwhelm or hurt you.  Self care is the same thing.  You want to start small and just ease yourself into.  If you are not the type of person to take time for yourself, this may be hard, so start small and work your way up.

Untitled design (7) Do it over and over and over again until you are good at it.  With the concept of starting small, you want to keep doing it over again, until you are good at it.  This is so you can see the progress you are making each time you do it.  You may not see a huge progress if you do it once, and then stop, you have to continue to do it, so you can continue to grow and see the progress you are trying to attain. 

Untitled design (8) Don’t feel guilty.  You don’t or shouldn’t feel guilty for taking time out for yourself once a day or once a week.  To be honest, I don’t feel it’s right for someone to get upset with you for putting your health (which includes, the mind, body and soul) first.  Something that I started doing this year, is if I need time for myself and my husband wants to spend time with me, I tell him, I need some time for myself, and once I’m done, I will spend time with him.  

 

It might sound selfish to some people, but it’s something I have to learn to do because I do get stressed easily and I do have high anxiety, so I need that time; and sometimes, you know, I do feel guilty, but I have to learn that my health comes first. You have to learn to be alright with putting yourself first sometimes, and no one has the right to tell you that it’s not ok. Your health is important and you, your friends and family will benefit from you having a peace of mind.

Untitled design (9)My #1 basic form of self care-SLEEP.   We all need 8-10 hours minimum of sleep, even if we feel we can do everything with getting little sleep and lots of coffee (believe me guys, I’ve tried that in the past two weeks, and last night my body just shut down and I had to go to bed early).  Guys, caffeine only works for so long and then you crash.

 

 Even if you have a lot of caffeine or energy drinks or whatever, eventually your body is going to just shut down because it’s tired.  So try your best to get enough sleep each day, even if it’s telling your spouse that you are just so tired, that you need to take a 2-3 hour nap or if you are a teen mom (or dad), seeing if you have a friend or a relative who could watch your child(children) so that you can get sleep.  Your health will benefit from the sleep you get.

 

Self-Care is a journey, an investment and a practice within yourself

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The purpose of self care is to take some time to put your own needs before others.  To give yourself down time, to think, to take time to reset your mind, body and soul.  Self care in an investment, a practice, and a journey.  Invest the time into yourself because you deserve it and no one has the right to tell you otherwise. 

 

Question for the week:

I love the concept of self-care being a practice first before anything else, what do you all feel about this concept?  Share your thoughts in the comments below.

 

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Be the Person You want to Become

Be the Person You want to Become

Hello my sweet sweet friends. How has your weekend gone?  Mine has been pretty good…did a lot of reading, which is why there were no posts up last week…I was busy reading 2 books and I’m on my third one. Gotta have that me time even if it’s for a week or an hour. But I’m back this week with some posts.  I had topics planned but again, I just felt like I needed to talk about this topic.  Also let me know if you all like these types if topics because I love talking about them, and if you have any topics you would like me to talk about, please don’t hesitate to let me know.

And if any of you don’t know, I read every comment, and I try to respond to every single one, even if it’s a day or two or later after you post, I always respond, so if any of you were wondering, yes I respond…plus I love reading all of your comments, even if you disagree with me, I love reading them because you are all amazing.  Ok let’s stop rambling…let’s get started LOL

 

BELIEVE IN THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME

 

So I was on youtube, and I was watching this video and something this person said really stuck with me…”Be the person you want to become.”  This to me sounds so great, because I’m always in yoga pants, leggings and a sweatshirt, because I work nights, I just don’t get home til late in the morning, and I’m ready for bed; but I also want to make this blog the best it can be, and have the motivation to share with all of you some amazing content…so it would make sense that if I want to do that, I would dress the part right? How many of you have this dream to become something but you don’t think that the way you dress matters?  Me…I’m not going to lie. So today I’m going to share with you 2 main ways you can do this:

 

  1. A power product.  A power product is whatever makes you feel amazing and like a boss..some examples are: coffee, heels, a certain pair of pants or an outfit or a dress, getting your nails done (finger and toenails), hair…pretty much anything that makes you feel powerful, like you can accomplish anything.  

  2. Act the part.  So if you want to be a business woman, act the part…read books, go on interviews, shadow a business woman, watch videos…whatever you do…see how they act, and then in your own way, act the part.  People always say, “fake it til you make it.”  If you want something bad enough, work towards it and you can achieve it.

 

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That’s all I have for you today.  “Be the person you want to become”…and make that person fabulous! 

Question for the week:

Think of this quote: “Be the person you want to become”: In the comments below, what is one tip you have that goes with this quote?

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5 Ways to Remind You of Your Dream

5 Ways to Remind You of Your Dream

Hello my sweet sweet friends.  So going off with the theme of believing in yourself and making things happen for yourself, today we are going to talk about believing in your dream.  So dreams are really important, no matter what any one says.

I love dreams and I love having dreams.  I’m a mom and I will always tell my child to have a dream and to go for it because I feel that dreams are just perfect. It gives you something to strive for and if you don’t get your dream, that’s ok as long as you never gave up completely on it and you tried to accomplish it. I’m going to share with you 3 ways how you can make sure that your dreams stays in your mind; so if you would like to know….just continue reading 🙂

 

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  1. Write it down. Writing your dream down can help you remember what you are working towards.  Write it down everywhere; (In your bathroom, in your room, in your car, in your planner, etc)  Keep it in your mind so that you can work your hardest towards it.

  2. Know that Failure is NOT the end/ Set Backs WILL happen.  You are probably going to fail.  You will probably let people down, let yourself down, feel pressure because this is your dream, but you can’t focus on it right now…that is ok.  Failing is not the end of the world, and it’s not the end of your dream.  Keep working towards your dream, no matter how many set backs there are are, keep at it.

  3. Whatever you set your mind on, YOU can achieve.  Law of attraction.  Remember my post I did this week, remember that, because that will be the motivation that will help you in your journey of accomplishing your dream.  If you focus on it, and not let the setbacks get you down, you can achieve it…I PROMISE!

  4. There is a time and a season for everything.  There is a time where your dream will take off. If it’s not taking off right now…don’t panic and get upset, because it may not be your time…but I promise…your time is coming.  Don’t give up…keep pressing towards your goal…your dream will come alive.

  5. Believe in YOURSELF and Know you are NOT a failure.  I personally feel that this is the most important thing to remember.  If you don’t believe anything else I’m saying or you don’t care about anything else I’m saying or you just skim over this post…remember this…YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE AND YOU NEED TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF…IN ORDER FOR YOUR DREAM TO FLOURISH.  NO ONE IS GOING TO BELIEVE IT FOR YOU….SO YOU NEED TO BELIEVE IN YOU.  

 

So I hope that you all got something out of this.  Just remember…this is a journey and your dream will come true if you believe in it, and you believe in yourself. Just so you all know…my dream is to have a website and a business that has to do with self development, self awareness because that is what this blog is all about and this is the journey that I’m on right now and I love this journey, I love the person I’m becoming and I’m believing in this dream because I’m passionate about it and I hope that you can notice my passion for this topic through my posts. I want to encourage people to live the life they have always dreamed of and I’m with here with all of you…just learning about life.

 

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Let me know what your thoughts are on this topic in the comments below.  I would love to hear other’s perspective on this.   There are no wrong answers on my blog, so share your opinions, be respectful of other’s opinions and know that I read and respond to all of your comments because I love to hear what you all have to say 🙂  If you have any topics you would like me to talk about, let me know because I would be happy to share my perspective on it. I write down your suggestions and I can share my thoughts on them.

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The Power of “I Am”

The Power of “I Am”

Hello my sweet sweet friends. So before I go into it, I really want to share this. So for this blog post we are going to talk about  Law Of Attraction. So basically law of attraction is “whatever you focus all your attention on, you will eventually receive or get.” So lets say you want to become a doctor…if you put all your focus on becoming a doctor, you do really well in college, you do all your internships, you do great on your tests, you get into medical school, etc…eventually all the work you put into it, you will eventually get…right…so eventually you will become a doctor…So I was on pinterest looking up some inspiration for this blog post, and the first quote that popped up was Mark 11:24. So this is a bible verse for anyone who doesn’t know.

So this is what it says:  (New International Version) “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” I think this is so interesting, because obviously these go together and who knew that God knew what law of attraction was! Like this is mind boggling…I mean who knew? LOL…So,  I think this is really cool.  Sorry, just fascinated how the bible relates to life.  Anyway, so in this post, we are just going to go with what I’m thinking because I didn’t really have this one planned out lol. 

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To me, law of attraction really works.  I always believe that whatever you set your mind to, you can achieve and I still believe that to this day. When you decide that you want to do something, and you work for it and don’t give up, you will eventually see the results from it.  Some people don’t believe this, but to me, it’s one of those motivational goals that just helps put things into perspective.  It’s also a great feeling when you realize that all your hard work has finally paid off. Tell yourself “I Am the boss of my company, I Am the best mom I can be, I Am a doctor, I own my own business, I Am beautiful, I Am amazing, I Am a great friend, I Am a boss girl, etc”  Instead of hoping for it, tell yourself as if it is already happening, because then you will strive and work towards that, and once you believe it, then the actions you take towards it will reflect the fact that you believed it. The power of “I AM” is just amazing because it can be the difference between hoping for change, believing the change and actually working towards it or feeling it instantly.  Once you do all of this, then you will receive the reward and the feeling that you always wanted.  Whether it’s physical, spiritual, mental or emotional, the power of “I Am” can make a huge difference in your life.

 

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Let me know what your thoughts are on this topic in the comments below.  I would love to hear other’s perspective on this.  Do you believe this, or do you not?  There are no wrong answers on my blog, so share your opinions, be respectful of other’s opinions and know that I read and respond to all of your comments because I love to hear what you all have to say 🙂

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5 Reasons Why Self Improvement Starts with Self Reflection

5 Alternatives to Meditation

Hello my sweet sweet friends. How are all of you this week?  I love asking that question because I really want to know how all of you are doing this week.  My week so far has been pretty busy with working nights…(I’m basically a certified nursing assistant, but I work in a house with 4-5 clients)…so I’m pretty busy especially since I’m a mom and a wife and we have a dog.  I love my job, I love my clients, but because I do all of this, there are days were I just need to center my mind.

If you read or follow my blog, you know that I have a few posts about meditation, but there are some people who don’t like the whole meditation process…you know, sitting still and being quiet for like 5-10 minutes or longer if you prefer.  So I have come up with 5 alternatives that I like to do instead of the meditation process.  If you are interested in finding out what they are, then continue reading.

 

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1. Lighting a candle or a fire and just watch the flames.

Ok I have no idea why this is so soothing but it really is.  Have you ever just sat and watched a flame?  It makes the vibe in the room so cool.  Another example is camp fires.  Ok so how many of you love camp fires or bonfires?  ME!!!! I love it mostly because they are warm, but also because of the noise of the fire crackling and watching the flame…ok I’m weird but I don’t care, it’s so soothing and awesome.  Let me know if any of you like bonfires as much as I do.

 

2. Spending time with your pets.

Pets love to spend time with their owners or families and what better day to spend an hour or even less than to play with your pet(s) and show them some love.

 

3. Have flowers(fake or real) or pick flowers.

I have flowers all over my apartment.  Mine are fake because real flowers die too fast for me and I love to keep my flowers for different seasons and holidays.  I’ve been really into white lately, so I made these flower arrangements and put them all over my apartment.  They make me happy and when I see them, my mind just goes to peace.  So if you love flowers, and meditation is not your think, go pick some up and put them around your place to boost your mood and to bring your mind to peace.

 

4. Read.

I’m sure I’ve mentioned this on my blog before, but I love reading.  The book in the picture is one that I’m currently reading along with just a regular book.  This book is called Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley. It’s a good book so far. Not sure if I have done a review yet on it, if I have I will link it below, if not, let me know in the comments if any of you would love to hear the review on it and I will do it.  Anyway, reading is a great alternative to meditation because you can get into a new world and just take your mind somewhere else.

 

5. Have a great breakfast.

This is one that I love.  If you don’t like to meditate, but you need to just get your mood to a calmer place, start your day off with a good breakfast.  Get up an hour or two earlier and make that breakfast that will make you feel great.  Even if your day doesn’t go great, atleast you know you had a great breakfast.

 

So those are my 5 alternatives to meditation.  If you want to see  more of my thoughts on meditation, put meditation in the search bar and it will bring up all my posts on it.

 

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Question of the week:

In the comments below, share if you have any alternatives to mediation. For those who don’t like the stereotypical type of meditation, what do you do to quiet the mind? 🙂

 

5 Reasons Why Self Improvement Starts with Self Reflection

5 Reasons Why Self Improvement Starts with Self Reflection

Hello my sweet sweet friends.  As some of you may know…I’ve been going through a self reflection self awareness journey these past 2 years. I will briefly describe why for those who don’t know.  A few years ago, I was having a rough time.  I lost one of my best friends ( no he didn’t die) our friendship of 8 years ended, I was having some relationship issues and to add to it, my anxiety was really bad.  I knew I needed to do something but I didn’t know what would make me happy, so I finally decided I needed to just reflect on my life and make that change.  

 

This has helped me so much and I have to say that as of today July 8, 2017, I’m pretty happy with who I have become…I have some amazing friends, my relationship is pretty good and things are pretty good even through the rough times.  I feel that self improvement has to start with self reflection and here’s 5 reasons  why.

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5 Reasons:

  1. It makes or requires you to dig deep into your feelings.

    This may be hard for people and I know it was hard for me for awhile.  But after I really dug down deep and thought about why I was so unhappy, I could see that there were things in my life that just needed to be different.  I needed myself to be good, before I could have everyone else in my life be ok.

  2. Admit you are not perfect.

     You are not perfect.  And that is something you need to admit to yourself.  When I was having that rough time, I was trying to be perfect in all of my relationships and it ended up being a disaster, so admit.  Admitting things about yourself is NOT A WEAKNESS.  I feel that it’s a strength because you are brave enough to admit that there are things that are not great traits or qualities of yourself and you want to improve that.

  3. You can not do everything.

    There are only 24 hours in a day.  Ok…everyone in the world only has 24 hours in a day which means that you can not do everything. Something I had to admit that in order to be happy, I had to realize that I’m not superwoman all of the time.  I can only do what I can do in that day and I need to be happy with that.  If my friend asks me to text her, but I have a busy day, and I don’t get to text her, it’s ok (if she’s a good friend) because the next day you can do that.  So don’t beat yourself up over things you don’t get to.  Appreciate what you do get to and be happy.  You will get to it the next day I promise.

  4. You do not need to fix every problem.

    Wow…this is something I had such a hard time doing.  I got my BA in Psychology and I’m always trying to fix problems (even to this day) but what self reflection has taught me is that it’s alright to just listen to someone and not try to fix their issues.  Sometimes  your friends just want a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen, they don’t want you to fix it or want to know your ideas on how to fix their problem.

  5. Understand, that in order to make a change…it starts with YOU.

    If you want a change, then you need to actually make the changes.  Figure out what you want to change and figure out the steps to change it.  So for me, I had to admit, acknowledge and accept that the friendship was over, and that the 8 years we were friends was great but now it’s time for me to make new friends and embrace that change. Number 2:  I had to fix my relationship… which again started with me and number three, I needed to find ways to deal or calm my anxiety.

So there you have the 5 reasons.  I hope this made you think about yourself a little bit more especially if there is something you need to change in yourself or in your life.  

 

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Are You In Your Right Mind?

 

Question:

In the comments below, let me know your thoughts on this subject.  Do you feel that it is necessary to reflect on yourself or your life in order to see improvement?  What area of your life would you want to see improvement in?  Have  you ever needed to take a step back in order to realize that an area of yourself or your life needed to be changed?

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Are You In Your Right Mind?

Hello my sweet sweet friends.   How has your week gone?  Mine has gone pretty well.  There’s a quote I would like to share with you because I feel it has a lot to do with self development.

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This quote just says so much.  Your mind needs to be right if you want a real change.  If you are in a situation that you don’t really like…then you are in the power to change that.  If you are unhappy with something, then you can either stay in that place and be unhappy or you can change your mindset towards the way you look at it.  

 

 

For example:  Maybe you are in a job you really hate, but you have to pay your bills…well you can either get another job, or you can tell yourself that even though you don’t really like the job, you are going to just do  your job, come home and enjoy the time with your family and be happy.  Another example could be you are starting your own business and after a week or so you are not seeing any profit or after a a few months, or a year, you are not seeing any profit…you can either get upset and say “I’m going to quit and that’s that….I’m not making any money”…or you can say “I’m going to do more research, I’m going to keep this business going, I’m going to get advice and help and put in the work…and I’m not going to give up.”  It’s all about your mindset.

 

 

My blog has been doing pretty good.  I have 36 followers and I’ve been doing this for quite some time.  Do I get discouraged sometimes because I feel like I should have more followers but I don’t, Yes, but I keep going, because I know that this blog is helping someone out there.  I love my blog and I love helping and eventually I will do a paid version and all of that, because, eventually I do want to expand this blog and really get super serious but for now….this is perfect.  My mindset is “I’m not giving up because it’s hard…I’m pushing forward because it’s important to me and I love it.  It’s a passion of mine that could turn into something serious and giving up is not an OPTION! I want this to help someone and I don’t care what I have to do, how much work I have to put in…to make this amazing.

 

 

 

It’s all about your mindset.  It’s all about how you look at the situation.  Your mind will either make you or break you.  The way you see things can change how you feel, can change your life and the way you live your life.  So think about the situation you are in and check your mind…are you in your right mind?  If not, it might be time for a mental evaluation. It may be time to think to yourself and say “Am I working at my best, is the situation I’m in helping me or do I need to make a change?”  “Do I need to work smarter or even harder…or am I just going to give up because I’m not seeing the result (s) I want?” You have to take responsibility for the situation you are in.  You have to take responsibility for your business…no one is going to give it to you…no one else is going to care more than you.  If you don’t care…and you give up….then what does that say?

 

 

Do I need to give my mind… an attitude adjustment?

 

Question:

Has anyone ever been in a situation where you just needed to give your mind an attitude adjustment? If yes…how did it turn out?  Share in the comments below.